November 19, 2017
Today is your parent’s 6 year wedding anniversary and at this time 6 years ago we were having our pictures taken at the Brickworks already in tux and gown. Marriage, as it turns out, is a lot of work. I don’t claim to be an expert (pretty sure I told your dad to fuck off this morning) but I have learned a few things over 6 years of married life.
First of all, as mentioned above, being married is work. Being romantic is work, being communicative is work. It’s all work that if you fail to put in, will ruin a relationship. There are bad days, weeks and even months in a relationship. I’m sure that in the long run if you make it to 50 years there are even bad years but I guess the hope is that the good far outweighs the bad. I think a lot of people expect love to be magical – and it is but it’s also unglamorous, hard and challenging. You should know that going in so that you don’t run screaming when the going gets tough because it will one way or another.
Second, it’s really easy to not make the time. We live together so your dad and I see each other every day. It can make the idea of “catching up” seem silly but silly it’s not. It’s essential to the core of us to reconnect and make specific and cherished time to do so. This is true of all the relationships you’re going to have. It’s easy to take people for granted. Don’t.
Third thing is that marriage means your tied to this person and all their goods and bads. Yup, I’m going to say it. Your dad is annoying as fuck sometimes but guess what? I still love him more than anything.
Finally, marriage when done right should feel like a never ending slumber party hangout with your best friend. If you have any other scenario, no judgement but you’re doing it wrong.
So here’s hoping that whoever you spend your time with is as rewarding and wonderful as this marriage. You deserve it.